Plastic Eggs Deliver No Hope But An Empty Tomb Does!

 






Americans are not afraid to celebrate.  Ranging from Valentine’s Day and St. Patrick’s Day to the 4th of July or Christmas and Easter, Americans eagerly welcome good food, time with family and friends, and often a much needed break from work.  While all of these holidays are significant in different ways for their own reasons, I personally could live without almost every single one.      


Notice I said almost.

I absolutely can’t live without Christmas or Easter.


We don’t have to look far to find evidence of devastating, tragic suffering around us.

  Maybe you don’t have a child living in Heaven like me, but you may be experiencing a

hard road in life that feels impossible.  Financial disaster that feels never-ending. 

A broken relationship that you see no way out of.  Chronic pain or a health condition

that will remain with you until you leave this Earth.  A difficult child that poses challenges

you have no control over.  Abuse from the past that left you traumatized and rejected,

unloved and feeling useless….no hope of healing or purpose.



The good news is–this world is not the end!  




Here, I share  two vastly different narratives based on the shattering of my world as I knew

it when my son left this Earth. 


I absolutely did NOT choose the events of May 14, 2020!  But I DO get to choose

where I deposit my hope for the future and in what or whom I place my trust.  



A Bunny and Chocolate Eggs

On an unusually cool and stormy day in August 2004, a sweet baby boy was born to his loving mother, Lisa.  As he grew, Dalton was full of smiles, fun, and laughter.  He worked hard in school and loved sports.  His family was like all other average American families.  They spent lots of time together, attended church each week, enjoyed making memories on vacation together, and loved making each other laugh. Dalton was a well-adjusted kid with lots of friends, accomplishments, and talents.  But silently, Dalton was believing lies he was being told that his life was invaluable.  No one would miss him if he was gone.  In fact, they would be better off without him.  There was nothing worth living for.  Tragically, without warning, Dalton fell prey to these lies and ended his own life.  


As the years passed by, Lisa lived miserably without her son. She tried to keep pressing

on as best she could by going to work, cleaning the house, cooking, doing laundry,

running errands, and searching for things that might make her happy again. Lisa had

spent years working  hard to build a happy life. She focused on success while enjoying

some leisure activities when time allowed.  But all of that vanished in the blink of an eye. 

The one chance she had was over. 


 


Since Lisa did not get to enjoy a lifetime of memories with Dalton, she was tormented with thoughts that never ceased.   “Why did I have to lose my son at such a young age?  I was robbed of countless years with him.  Years that I will never get back!  What did I ever do to deserve this?” Lisa remained miserable, full of anger, bitterness, and resentment for what she lost.


Where Lisa lived, a well-known holiday called Easter rolled around every spring.  An adorable, fuzzy bunny happily delivered chocolate eggs to children and families across the land.  But just like everything else, this holiday offered Lisa no comfort, joy, or peace.  A bunny and chocolate eggs were no help at all.  Life remained miserable with no answers.  Just agonizing days that ushered in constant reminders of a world full of suffering with little reprieve.  


THE END



Now, read a very different storyline–same characters, same tragedy.


But an incredibly different journey and ending because of the choice Lisa made.




Jesus and An Empty Tomb


There once lived a little girl named Lisa.  When she was young, she attended

church and learned about a loving God.  Once a year, her church celebrated an event

called Easter.  This day was especially important to Lisa because on this day two thousand

years ago, people discovered that Jesus, who had died on a cross, was actually

resurrected.  The tomb he had been placed in after his death was empty! 

Jesus had paid for each of our sins and overcame death!  This was good news for

Lisa and all other believers.  Now, when Lisa’s earthly body died, she would live for

eternity with Jesus in a perfect place called Heaven.  


Over the next 37 years, Lisa grew up and had a family of her own.


On an unusually cool and stormy day in August 2004, a sweet baby boy was born

to his loving mother, Lisa.  As he grew, Dalton was full of smiles, fun, and laughter. 

He worked hard in school and loved sports.  His family was like all other average

American families.  They spent lots of time together, attended church

each week, enjoyed making memories on vacation together, and loved making each

other laugh. Dalton was a well-adjusted kid with lots of friends, accomplishments, and

talents.  But silently, Dalton was believing lies he was being told that his life was invaluable. 

No one would miss him if he was gone.  In fact, they would be better off without him. 

There was nothing worth living for.  Tragically, without warning, Dalton fell prey to these

lies and ended his own life.  


The minute Dalton went to Heaven, Lisa instantly felt confusion, anger, hurt, sorrow,

despair, anxiousness, fear, and deep, unimaginable pain. But, Lisa also clung to

the relationship she had developed with the loving God she knew and trusted for

many years.  She knew God was close to her (Psalm 34:18) and that

He would never leave her (Deuteronomy 31:8).  God showed Lisa unending love through

special people he placed in her life and ways that He provided for her every need. Life

was still incredibly overwhelming and even agonizing.  It was impossible to make sense

out of what happened.  Lisa continued to grieve her son in healthy ways.  In her moments

of despair, she cried out to God asking for Him to sustain her and carry her.  Because

Lisa knew the tomb was empty on Easter morning two thousand years ago, she clung to

her Hope.  Not a hope like, “Maybe I will see Dalton again.”  No…we’re talking a “for

sure” Hope. She would have to live separated from Dalton for the rest of her days on Earthl.

Just because she trusted God didn't mean the hurt disappeared. But, Hope in Christ

became a gentle engine that powered her to continue living with purpose and loving those

around her.


Lisa still had to live life doing the things she always did before……running errands, doing

laundry, cooking, cleaning, teaching her students at school, and being the best mom she

can be to her daughter.  With Lisa’s human ability, all of these things would be impossible

after the trauma she faced. But with God, all things are possible-even healing after

unimaginable trauma and loss. Lisa grieved in healthy ways in order to continue moving

forward in life by keeping her eyes on the prize–eternity in Heaven!  This broken world is

NOT the end!



Lisa knew her story with Dalton wasn’t over.  She still wasn’t thankful for her loss, and she

despised the new landscape of the world without her son. But with her eyes full

of tears, she was slowly and steadily comforted by the words, “Until we meet again.  I’m

on my way!  See you soon!”


Below are some valuable comparisons between these two texts. 



Plastic Eggs and a Bunny

Jesus and An Empty Tomb

Initial emotions after

the tragedy

Pain, sorrow, despair,

anger, fear

Pain, sorrow, despair,

anger, fear

Focus of Easter

A bunny and chocolate

eggs

Jesus’ empty tomb proved

He conquered death

Available comfort

Chocolate candy in

plastic eggs delivered by

a bunny

Because Jesus died

on the cross, those

who accept Him have

the promise of eternity

in a perfect place

called Heaven

Emotions over time

Bitterness, rage, confusion,

anger, resentment, emptiness,

guilt, shame, despair,

hostility, hopelessness

Heartache, sorrow,

missingness, empathy,

grace, mercy, forgiveness,

love, hope

Theme

A bunny and chocolate

eggs offer no help when

storms of life rage.

Having a relationship with

Jesus means we have a

strong refuge to cover us,

carry us, sustain us, and

love us when the storms

of life rage.

Theme

Surviving the loss of my

child will be

impossible–even though the

Easter bunny brings me

gifts.

I can only survive and

eventually thrive again after

child loss if I cling to God.

How the story concludes

THE END

Until we meet again. 

I’m on my way. 

See you soon!



While I have to admit that the Easter bunny is adorable and I actually love the chocolate eggs he brings, I could

absolutely live without them for the rest of my life.  Conversely, I cannot go on one more day without the Hope

supplied to me because of the empty tomb!  Thank goodness God doesn’t force me to deposit my hope in

or trust a furry, four-legged rabbit!  And He doesn’t ask you to either.  



Important note!!!!     A lifelong relationship with God is not necessary to experience the Hope we find in Him.  The gift of eternity is received the moment you say yes to Jesus. Jesus’ rescuing Hope is available whether you’ve experienced suffering or not.  It is never too late!  Reach out to someone you know near you or send me a private message.  I would be honored to help you discover a beautiful relationship with Christ.
















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